Dating Advice & Tips - Help!

Where have all the single guys gone?
I’m serious.
Where are they?

The “dating scene” vanishes for those of us in our mid to late 20’s. What do you do when you’re out of college, have had the same friends for years - have met all their friends and their boyfriend’s friends, you’re too old for the club/bar scene, and dating a coworker is out of the question? Where do you meet quality single men?

In some of the books I’ve read (yes, I have bought books about dating) they say just to do the things you love. Well, there’s an issue when what you love is the movies, going out to dinner with friends and family, reading/writing and other solo activities. I can’t help what I love doing, right?

So where do I meet datable guys?

I tried online dating. That was semi successful leading to many great dates, a boyfriend for a short time but nothing substantial. I’ve tried friends setting me up, my parents setting me up, I smile at guys at the grocery store, at the gas pump, while we’re out to eat, whenever. But no luck.

I have a lot to offer. I’m not horrible to look at. I’m college educated, hold a steady job. Manage my own blog and contribute to another website. I freelance, take piano lessons, have a slight TV addiction. I enjoy going to the movies, bowling, trying almost anything once (recently tried ATVing, whitewater rafting and horseback riding – all were great fun!). I’m curious, inquisitive, stubborn, can admit when I’m wrong, able to apologize, etc. I mean – I’m not completely undatable.

So what is it then? Why is it so easy for some and such a struggle for others? Weird, right?

I’m on a treasure hunt and I need your help. I need the advice of anyone reading. I’m open. Where should I go, what should I say, what not to say, etc. Help!

Also, are you in a similar situation, because I feel like the only one? Share your single stories too. Then we can swap tactics and collaborate.

Can’t wait to read the comments!

“Basically, I'm for anything that gets you through the night - be it prayer, tranquilizers or a bottle of Jack Daniels.” – Frank Sinatra
So may the prayers, tranquilizers and JD be with you and see you next time.


Anonymous said...

Hey..... I've been wondering the same thing recently. Not that i did a whole lot of dating when i was in college (i was in a relationship). But, at least then it seemed like there were guys around to meet!

Found some good ideas here: http://www.creative-dating-ideas.com/where-to-meet-men.html

I especially liked the Park idea. It's tough, but don't give out hope! Good guys are out there.

BloggingFun said...

Thanks Anonymous! Glad I'm not the only one. Yeah, I was in a relationship too during most of my college career. I'll def. check out that site. I appreciate the help! :)

Anonymous said...

Its all chance and a matter of time. I love movies so i find myself at Barnes and Noble @ Lynnhaven Mall. Great movie and music section. Around 8pm, its a great place to meet someone nice for coffee and a great conversation. Give chance a try as it begins with a nice smile.....

BloggingFun said...

Thanks Anonymous, what a great tip! Glad to hear one of my fav stores is also a place where guys go. I'll def try it out. Thanks again!

Anonymous said...

meetup.com, if you don’t know, is a great site to make friends in your local area. Apart from groups with general interest, they also have several single groups that plan normal group "meet ups." they are usually in a casual setting and help take the pressure out of a one-on-one date.

btw - i am not a meet up solicitor. i've joined several groups with my similar interest.

Hope this helps!

BloggingFun said...

Thanks Anonymous. Yeah I've def heard of Meetup. To be honest, I've been too hesitant to actually go to any of the meet ups, I dunno why that is. I'm a member of a movie Meet Up group, not a single one. Have you had success with the single groups? If so, I may just have to try it out then. Thanks for your comment!!